Tips for partners and parents of players
Introduction
Partners and parents are often the first to notice the problem with excitement. It is important to proceed smoothly and constructively: not to blame, but to protect the family and offer specific help. Below are step-by-step tips without further ado.
1. Build clear boundaries
1. Separate finances
- Transfer common accounts to separate cards, close joint credit cards.
2. Limit access to money
- Ask the bank to block MCC codes 7932/7995 or set a zero deposit limit on the dependent's account.
3. Clear "home rules"
- Write down and discuss: "no loans for rates," "reports on all expenses."
2. Emotional support without judgment
1. Active listening
- Let me say: "I hear you are worried..." instead of "You are losing again!"
2. Focus on "we"
- Use "we-form": "Let's find a solution together," and not "you again...."
3. Regular "family meetings"
- Weekly short conversations about well-being and goals, record in the diary.
3. Connect professional help
1. Hotline
- Gamblers Help: 1800 858 858 - consultants will help you develop a support plan specifically for your family.
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 - emergency psychological help for acute anxiety.
2. Online chat and email
– [https: //www. gamblinghelponline. org. au](https: //www. gamblinghelponline. org. au) → «Chat now» или [support@gamblinghelponline. org. au](mailto: support@gamblinghelponline. org. au).
3. Video sessions
- Registration for a personal consultation through the website for married couples.
4. Protecting your own well-being
1. Personal "refueling"
- Allocate 30 minutes daily for walking, hobbies or meditation.
2. Own boundaries
- Give up the role of "rescuer": you are not responsible for other people's decisions.
3. Support for yourself
- Lifeline and Gam-Anon for relatives: exchange of experience and fulcrum.
5. Involvement of the "controller"
1. Appoint a reliable person
- A friend or relative who will help you check limits and reports.
2. Joint reports
- Weekly review of statements and diary with a "controller."
3. Alarms
- Identify together triggers (late calls, abrupt refills) and arrange an emergency call to the hotline.
Conclusion
The role of the partner and parent is not to eliminate the problem instead of the dependent, but to create a safe framework: financial, emotional and organizational. Clear boundaries, support through hotlines, concern for your own well-being and the participation of the "controller" will help to regain control of the situation and maintain relationships.
Partners and parents are often the first to notice the problem with excitement. It is important to proceed smoothly and constructively: not to blame, but to protect the family and offer specific help. Below are step-by-step tips without further ado.
1. Build clear boundaries
1. Separate finances
- Transfer common accounts to separate cards, close joint credit cards.
2. Limit access to money
- Ask the bank to block MCC codes 7932/7995 or set a zero deposit limit on the dependent's account.
3. Clear "home rules"
- Write down and discuss: "no loans for rates," "reports on all expenses."
2. Emotional support without judgment
1. Active listening
- Let me say: "I hear you are worried..." instead of "You are losing again!"
2. Focus on "we"
- Use "we-form": "Let's find a solution together," and not "you again...."
3. Regular "family meetings"
- Weekly short conversations about well-being and goals, record in the diary.
3. Connect professional help
1. Hotline
- Gamblers Help: 1800 858 858 - consultants will help you develop a support plan specifically for your family.
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 - emergency psychological help for acute anxiety.
2. Online chat and email
– [https: //www. gamblinghelponline. org. au](https: //www. gamblinghelponline. org. au) → «Chat now» или [support@gamblinghelponline. org. au](mailto: support@gamblinghelponline. org. au).
3. Video sessions
- Registration for a personal consultation through the website for married couples.
4. Protecting your own well-being
1. Personal "refueling"
- Allocate 30 minutes daily for walking, hobbies or meditation.
2. Own boundaries
- Give up the role of "rescuer": you are not responsible for other people's decisions.
3. Support for yourself
- Lifeline and Gam-Anon for relatives: exchange of experience and fulcrum.
5. Involvement of the "controller"
1. Appoint a reliable person
- A friend or relative who will help you check limits and reports.
2. Joint reports
- Weekly review of statements and diary with a "controller."
3. Alarms
- Identify together triggers (late calls, abrupt refills) and arrange an emergency call to the hotline.
Conclusion
The role of the partner and parent is not to eliminate the problem instead of the dependent, but to create a safe framework: financial, emotional and organizational. Clear boundaries, support through hotlines, concern for your own well-being and the participation of the "controller" will help to regain control of the situation and maintain relationships.
