Writing to myself: why am I quitting this
1. Why write yourself a letter
Strengthening motivation. Clear, personally formulated reasons have a strong emotional effect.
Clarity of purpose. You record not an abstract "no longer play," but concrete results and values.
Reliance on crisis. In moments of craving, returning to the letter is a reminder of the decision and willpower.
2. Structure of the letter
1. Greeting and tone.
Turn to yourself by name, in a warm but decisive tone: "Dear Ivan...."
2. Description of the current state.
Briefly list what happened ("I lost X, lost the trust of loved ones, feel...").
3. Reasons for refusal.
Formulate 3-5 key motives: health, family, financial stability, personal growth.
4. Goals and benefits.
Describe the specific changes: "in a month without bets I...," "in six months I will have...."
5. Action plan.
List the tools: tracker, support groups, breathing practices, site blocking.
6. A promise to myself.
Be clear: "I pledge..."
7. Final verve.
Wishing yourself success and being reminded that you deserve a better life.
3. Practical Writing Tips
Write in the first person and present tense. "I Feel," "I Choose," "I Create."
Use specific numbers and deadlines. "In 30 days I will accumulate...," "I reduce debts by 20% per month."
Don't be afraid of emotion. Describe fear, anger or shame - they give writing weight.
Add visualization. "I see myself as a healthy, calm, smiling family at the kitchen table."
Write on paper or in a personal file with a password. This way you can access the letter at any time.
4. How to use the letter
1. Reading on morning setup. Reread every morning before the day starts.
2. Re-reading with strong traction. When you want to play, open the letter and read aloud.
3. Adjustment and update. Once a month, review and supplement the letter with new achievements and goals.
4. Keep a copy with the liability partner. So that in case of doubt you can get support and a reminder.
Writing to yourself is a simple but powerful tool for self-support. Having honestly and in detail formulated the reasons and goals, you create a personal "manifesto" of a gambling-free life that will help you stay on the path of refusal and return to it at any moment of weakness.
Strengthening motivation. Clear, personally formulated reasons have a strong emotional effect.
Clarity of purpose. You record not an abstract "no longer play," but concrete results and values.
Reliance on crisis. In moments of craving, returning to the letter is a reminder of the decision and willpower.
2. Structure of the letter
1. Greeting and tone.
Turn to yourself by name, in a warm but decisive tone: "Dear Ivan...."
2. Description of the current state.
Briefly list what happened ("I lost X, lost the trust of loved ones, feel...").
3. Reasons for refusal.
Formulate 3-5 key motives: health, family, financial stability, personal growth.
4. Goals and benefits.
Describe the specific changes: "in a month without bets I...," "in six months I will have...."
5. Action plan.
List the tools: tracker, support groups, breathing practices, site blocking.
6. A promise to myself.
Be clear: "I pledge..."
7. Final verve.
Wishing yourself success and being reminded that you deserve a better life.
3. Practical Writing Tips
Write in the first person and present tense. "I Feel," "I Choose," "I Create."
Use specific numbers and deadlines. "In 30 days I will accumulate...," "I reduce debts by 20% per month."
Don't be afraid of emotion. Describe fear, anger or shame - they give writing weight.
Add visualization. "I see myself as a healthy, calm, smiling family at the kitchen table."
Write on paper or in a personal file with a password. This way you can access the letter at any time.
4. How to use the letter
1. Reading on morning setup. Reread every morning before the day starts.
2. Re-reading with strong traction. When you want to play, open the letter and read aloud.
3. Adjustment and update. Once a month, review and supplement the letter with new achievements and goals.
4. Keep a copy with the liability partner. So that in case of doubt you can get support and a reminder.
Writing to yourself is a simple but powerful tool for self-support. Having honestly and in detail formulated the reasons and goals, you create a personal "manifesto" of a gambling-free life that will help you stay on the path of refusal and return to it at any moment of weakness.
