Support for loved ones: how to help a dependent person
1. Recognize the dependency
Frequent quarrels about money and time: conflicts arise over hidden rates and debts.
Loss of control: a person is not able to stop the game, even understanding the consequences.
Intrusive thoughts: conversations about rates, constant balance checks, irritability when returning to reality.
If you notice two or more signs in a loved one, it's time to act.
2. Preparing for a conversation
1. Choose the right moment: a calm environment without distractions.
2. Information base: learn about dependency mechanisms, existing support services (Gamblers Help Online, Lifeline, GA).
3. The purpose of the conversation: not to blame, but to express care and willingness to help.
3. Conversation strategy
1. Express "I-messages": "I worry when I see that you..." instead of "You never...."
2. Listen without assessment: let the person speak, do not interrupt or humiliate.
3. Focus on the facts: specific examples of debt, missed commitments, emotional distress.
4. Offer an alternative: joint rest, walks, new hobbies - switch attention.
5. Assess the motivation: ask if he is ready to seek help and what steps he considers possible.
4. Organization of access restrictions
Set up limits together: deposit and time limits in your casino account.
Self-Exclusion and BetStop: arrange centralized self-exclusion for the desired period.
Remove applications and passwords: change access data to make logging in as difficult as possible.
5. Help from professionals
1. Hotlines:
Frequent quarrels about money and time: conflicts arise over hidden rates and debts.
Loss of control: a person is not able to stop the game, even understanding the consequences.
Intrusive thoughts: conversations about rates, constant balance checks, irritability when returning to reality.
If you notice two or more signs in a loved one, it's time to act.
2. Preparing for a conversation
1. Choose the right moment: a calm environment without distractions.
2. Information base: learn about dependency mechanisms, existing support services (Gamblers Help Online, Lifeline, GA).
3. The purpose of the conversation: not to blame, but to express care and willingness to help.
3. Conversation strategy
1. Express "I-messages": "I worry when I see that you..." instead of "You never...."
2. Listen without assessment: let the person speak, do not interrupt or humiliate.
3. Focus on the facts: specific examples of debt, missed commitments, emotional distress.
4. Offer an alternative: joint rest, walks, new hobbies - switch attention.
5. Assess the motivation: ask if he is ready to seek help and what steps he considers possible.
4. Organization of access restrictions
Set up limits together: deposit and time limits in your casino account.
Self-Exclusion and BetStop: arrange centralized self-exclusion for the desired period.
Remove applications and passwords: change access data to make logging in as difficult as possible.
5. Help from professionals
1. Hotlines:
- Gamblers Help Online: 1800 858 858 (24/7)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 2. Self-help groups:
- Gamblers Anonymous (GA) - face-to-face and online meetings on a 12-step program.
- Smart Recovery is a cognitive behavioral approach.
- 3. Psychologist or narcologist: direct to counseling on gambling addiction, Medicare-rebated therapy is possible.
6. Self-help for loved ones
Emotional relief: seek support from friends, psychologist, groups of relatives (Family and Friends of Gamblers).
Personal boundaries: do not cover the debts of the addict, do not succumb to manipulation.
Awareness: Explore successful recovery cases and support program strategies.
7. Long-term plan
1. Weekly meetings: stipulate progress, possible breakdowns and maintain motivation.
2. Change control: record emotional state and financial indicators - debts, game costs.
3. Encouraging success: Celebrate each non-gaming day or week with a small gift or joint activity.
Conclusion
Supporting loved ones with gambling addiction is a combination of empathy, a clear plan of action and the involvement of professionals. A properly built dialogue, organization of technical restrictions and an appeal to proven services will help the addict regain control over life, and you will maintain relationships and mental balance.
